Congratulations! You are about to embark on one of the most joyous times in your life when you ask your soul mate to marry you. Of course, every proposal needs a stunning engagement ring to commemorate the occasion and to mark the beginning of a lifelong journey. While there are endless choices out there when buying an engagement ring, we’re here to help you avoid making some common mistakes. Read on to discover six mistakes grooms often make when shopping for an engagement ring and how to avoid them.
1. Buying what you like instead of what she likes
You may have a clear idea of what you like and don’t like, but don’t forget that the engagement ring is for your fiancé to wear, not you. Take the time to notice her taste in precious metals. Does she tend to wear jewelry, shoes, and handbags with white metal, yellow metal, or rose metal? This will help to decide whether you should buy a white gold, yellow gold, rose gold, platinum, or even a two-tone engagement ring. After all, since she’ll be wearing the engagement ring every day, she’ll want it to match the type of metal she tends to wear more.
Also, how does your future fiancée like to dress? Is she more classic, vintage-inspired, preppy, dramatic, or glamorous? These are all signals of her personal taste and are a good guide on what kind of engagement ring she would love.
Another top tip for determining what she likes is to dig around her social media. If she has a public Pinterest page, check out what kind of things she saves to her boards to get an idea of her taste. Or have a look on her Instagram—she may have liked some engagement ring styles or jewelry pictures that may give you a clue.
2. Going it Alone
Don’t try to shop for an engagement ring all by yourself. Go ahead and tap into her network of friends or family for some advice. Chances are her best friends, sister, or perhaps even her mother will have an idea of what kind of engagement ring she’d like. Maybe she’s spoken openly about what kind of engagement ring style she loves and hates.
But, a word of caution—make sure they can keep a secret! You don’t want to ruin the surprise after all.
3. Only focusing on the size of the diamond
Yes, the size of the diamond is important. But carat (i.e. the weight of the stone) is not the only factor to consider when shopping for an engagement ring. There’s the color, which can range from white to yellowish. Then there’s the clarity, which determines if a diamond has detectable flaws or not. And finally, there’s the cut, which refers to the diamond's proportions, symmetry and polish, and controls how the diamond reflects light. All of these factors, dubbed the four Cs of diamonds, plays into the stone’s beauty, appearance, and value.
Here's a quick chart for your reference:
Diamond Color Scale – D to Z
Colorless: D, E, F
Near Colorless: G, H, I, J
Faint Color: K, L, M
Very Light Color: N, O, P, Q, R
Light Color: S, T, U, V, W, X, Y, Z
Diamond Clarity Chart
Internally Flawless: IF
Very, Very Slightly Included: VVS1, VVS2
Very Slightly Included: VS1, VS2
Slightly Included: SI1, SI2
Included: I1, I2, I3
Shallow-Cut: A shallow-cut diamond will allow too much light to emit from the bottom, thus dulling a stone’s brilliance.
Ideal-Cut: An ideal-cut diamond is well proportioned to allow light to shine upwards and outwards, which is what you want.
Deep-Cut: A deep-cut diamond will allow too much light to emit from the sides, making the diamond appear smaller than it's true size.
Another important element to consider when shopping for an engagement ring is the shape of the center diamond. Here are some popular ones to choose from:
4. Disregarding the engagement ring setting and matching wedding ring
While the center diamond is of course the focus of the engagement ring, that’s just one component of the ring. There is the overall style of the engagement ring to consider. For instance, halo engagement rings surround the center diamond with even more diamonds to lend a larger look. The band of the engagement ring can range from simple precious metal bands to lavish diamond paved ones to seductively curvy ones in all sorts of shapes. You can opt for a single solitaire diamond engagement ring or one that flaunts even more diamonds in a variety of configurations, silhouettes, and styles.
At A.JAFFE, we boast a vast collection of different engagement ring styles to suit a variety of tastes and budgets. We also offer a complimentary customization process where you can create the perfect engagement ring for your future fiancé. We'll refine any of our designs to accommodate the shape and size of your chosen center diamond, and in the precious metal of your choice. Using the A.JAFFE customization process means your future bride can enjoy a truly unique engagement ring made just for her.
Plus, don’t forget the look of the matching wedding band too. Your soon-to-be fiancé can wear the wedding ring along with, or in lieu of, the engagement ring, so make sure it’s suitably beautiful as well. To match our gorgeous engagement rings, A.JAFFE has a fantastic assortment of wedding rings to choose from too.
5. Forgetting about the comfort of the ring
Appearance is important but so is comfort. Remember, this will be the jewelry piece that she will wear the most—in most cases, it will be on her finger every day. So the comfort of the engagement ring should be a top priority.
At A.JAFFE, we only use hypoallergenic nickel-free metals to craft our engagement rings. Moreover, many of our engagement rings feature a modern quilted interior, which allows air circulation and room for skin to expand and contract as necessary. Finally, to avoid uncomfortable twisting and turning of our engagement rings, the shanks on our creations are fashioned to ensure that the center diamond stays beautifully balanced and centered on the finger.
6. Not buying from a reputable source to save a few dollars
It’s no secret that buying an engagement ring requires a significant investment. Some shoppers may be tempted to buy from less-than-reputable sources to save a few dollars. However, in the long run, that’ll cost you. You may unknowingly purchase an engagement ring that is not the quality you’re after, or even worse, a fake one.
Make sure that you only buy an engagement ring from a trusted source that can guarantee the quality of their products. Not only does A.JAFFE have a history that dates back to 1892, but every engagement ring we offer is, of course, guaranteed authentic and comes with a lifetime warranty.
Our team of master jewelers crafts our engagement rings to the utmost standards using only the best materials. It can take up to 80 hours to make a single A.JAFFE engagement ring. All of our 18k gold is 100% nickel-free and is alloyed with 40% more palladium that other jewelers to guarantee your precious piece will stay bright for years to come. Our diamonds undergo a stringent selection process, where only a small percentage qualify to be used in our jewelry. Furthermore, A.JAFFE exclusively uses diamonds mined in countries fully participating in the Kimberley Process Certification system, a scheme charged to eliminate the trade of conflict diamonds.
To purchase an engagement ring from A.JAFFE means you have over 125 years of knowledge, expertise, and passion at your side.