What to Do When You Love Your Fiancée But Don’t Love the Engagement Ring That He Gave You

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“Keep love in your heart.  A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.”  – Oscar Wilde

You just got engaged and couldn’t be any happier.  You’ve never been more in love with your boyfriend and you’re excited to start the next phase of your life with him by your side.  However, something is wrong; you don’t like the engagement ring he gave you.  This is a sticky situation for any bride to be.  You don’t want to hurt your fiancée’s feelings, but you don’t want to be stuck with a ring you don’t like for the rest of your life either.

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Avoid That Situation in the First Place
If you are at the point in your relationship that you know you absolutely have to spend the rest of your life together, there is a good chance that you have already been discussing becoming engaged and married.  If you plan on becoming engaged soon, carefully drop hints as to what types of jewelry you like including size, shape, and color, and point out rings that you could see yourself wearing. If you want your engagement ring to be a complete surprise, tell your boyfriend, and let him know that you don’t have a preferred type of ring.   If a friend gets engaged let your boyfriend know how you feel about her ring so he can use that as a guideline when shopping for yours.

Be Gentle
The most important thing to remember if you find yourself in this situation is to be honest.  Tell your fiancée that you love him and that you are thrilled that he asked you to marry him.  You couldn’t imagine your life without him, but you also couldn’t imagine the rest of your life wearing an engagement ring that doesn’t fit your style.

Keep Calm
Think the situation through before you discuss it with your fiancée.  Explain to him that the ring is beautiful but it just isn’t right for you.  You’re engagement ring should be a symbol of your relationship and should reflect your personality accurately.  Discuss with him styles of engagement rings that you prefer and show him examples of jewelry that you already own to guide him.  With that being said, don’t take too much time deciding whether or not to keep the ring.  Many jewelry stores have strict policies regarding the length of time you have to return a purchase.  Also take the time to try it on and make sure you don’t like it before you tell him anything.  Although it may not have been a style you previously considered, you might just fall in love with it after wearing it for a while.

Can It Be Returned?   
Usually, engagement rings can be exchanged or even refunded. Take the time to go to the jeweler with your fiancée and show him rings that you prefer.  If he insists on surprising you, let him know what style(s) you like.

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